This Is How Yoga Saved My Sex Life

The first night I ever hung out with my would-be husband, we slept together. It was 7 years ago; we were at the tail end of college, and after a night of drinking he asked and the rest is history. What a fairy tale story, right? Anyways, our relations back then revolved primarily around sex( the love part didnt come around until a few months later ). Sex was what youd expect it to be- hot and heavy, with that youthful energy and sexual appetite every college student has. Any day we were in close proximity to each other, we could feel that sexual tension. We couldnt be lying in bed together without fondling one another. We were the type to sneak away from family events merely to fulfill each other. We fucked like rabbits. You get the point.

Over the years, its not like the sexuality got worse, it just got less intense and less frequent. We were able to lie in bed and read books or watch movies without taking our gasps off. Sex in public places became totally off limits( because, gross, right ?). And, to my consternation, orgasming was just a little harder to achieve.

I dont want to give you the wrong impression here. We still had a good sex life- it felt great, “were in” comfortable experimenting with one another, and multiple orgasms was still attainable( hallelujah ). I guess I just felt like my sexual appetite had decreased since our early years, something that is supposed to be normal for maturing couples.

And then, about 8 months before my wedding, I attained yoga a regular part of my routine( who doesnt want those yoga arms ?). And I cant thank the yogi deities enough because its something that has fundamentally changed my sexuality life for the better( the new muscles dont hurt either ).

Let me start by saying, before last year, I have never been known to work out regularly. I would go through these work up bursts that lasted several months, and then just like that, the second I caught a bad cold or went on vacation for a week, the explosion was over. Sometimes I felt guilty, a especially when friends talked about a new spin or pilates class they were obsessed with. However, it was too easy for me to shake that guilt off and happily go about my exercise-free life.

Whether I want to admit this or not, the absence of exert did have an impact on my sexuality life. More nights per week than not, I was too tired to get aroused. The actual act didnt last as long as it are applied to, I no longer enjoyed being on top, and there were many times I couldnt achieve an orgasm.

Heres where yoga comes in.

The first month was tough. It seemed like there was no relief to sore muscles, and I would immediately fall asleep after coming home from an evening class. But then, after the initial wall broke down, the yoga get easier. I could do poses I never dreamed of doing, and my alignment got better. New muscles that I never had started popping up( hello yoga limbs !). There were also non-physiological benefitsI became calmer, handled anxious situations better, and learned how to easily detach from a tough work day.

And then, there is the sex. God, its good. Its back to the level it was in college. Here are some of the ways its changed for the better 😛 TAGEND 1. The arousal is back and orgasms are way stronger . I cant fall asleep with him next to me without jumping his bones. Its like an insatiable feeling that wont go away unless we have sex. And orgasms are easy to come by( pun absolutely intended ).

2. Im SO flexible. The flexibility of my new muscles allows for style bendier poses( think about what you can do in bed when you can bend down far enough to not only touch your toes, but also loop your limbs around the backs of your legs ).

3. Better stamina . Want to go longer than half an hour? Yes, please! Want me to be on top for all of it? No problem! Not only can my muscles go for longer, but Ive learned how to use my breath so I dont run out of it during high intensity moments. 4. High energy . Even if its 12 am on a run night, once arousal makes, I am wide awake and ready to go.

It seems too good to be true, doesnt it? I thought so too. It wasnt until the vacation season that I connected our newly improved sex life with yoga. After our bridal, we took a 2 week long honeymoon, and then a week afterward we went to our families homes for the holidays. It was approximately a month and a half without a yoga class. Sex went back to being just good , not great. It happened less frequently, and it was less intense. Fast forward after the New Year and two months of regular yoga, and sexuality is now back to jump-your-bones-on-the-kitchen-floor sex.

But, why?

My yoga teacher often underlines engaging the mula bandha, which is the area between your anus and bellybutton. The act of engaging it is like doing kegels, but in a yoga class filled with 70 or so more people, who are also doing kegels.

Kegels are meant to workout the pelvic floorthey strengthen the muscles around your lower belly, and the region between your vagina and anus. The muscles you tone during kegel exerts are the same ones used during an orgasm. Attaining them stronger can help to achieve an orgasm quickly and more intensely.

There are certain yoga poses where you are constantly engaging your mula bandha for minutes at a time. Imagine an entire 1.5 hour long class full of poses that also serve as kegels. Thats a lot of mula bandha develop. Over time, as those muscles grow stronger, orgasms become more powerful and more addicting.

So, the moral of the story is, if youre looking for ways to improve your sexuality life, devote yoga a try. Your partner and your mula bandha will appreciate it.

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