Jennifer Aniston: ‘For The Record, I Am Not Pregnant. What I Am Is Fed Up’

Let me start by saying that addressing gossip is something I have never done. I don’t like to give energy to the business of lies, but I wanted to participate in a larger conversation that has already begun and needs to continue. Since I’m not on social media, I decided to put my believes here in writing.

For the record, I am not pregnant. What I am is fed up . I’m fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of “journalism, ” the “First Amendment” and “celebrity news.”

Every day my husband and I are harassed by dozens of aggressive photographers staked outside our home who will go to shocking durations to obtain any kind of photo, even if it means endangering us or the unlucky pedestrians who happen to be nearby. But put aside the public safety aspect, I want to focus on “the worlds biggest” picture of what this insane tabloid ritual represents to all of us.

If I am some kind of symbol to some people out there, then clearly I am an example of the lens through which we, as a society, view our moms, daughters, sisters, spouses, female friends and colleagues. The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. The style I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we consider and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty. Sometimes culture standards only need a different perspective so we can see them for what they actually are — a collective acceptance … a subconscious arrangement. We are in charge of our arrangement. Little girls everywhere are absorbing our arrangement, passive or otherwise. And it begins early. The message that girls are not pretty unless they’re incredibly thin, that they’re not worthy of our attention unless they look like a supermodel or an actress on the encompas of a publication is something we’re all willingly buying into. This conditioning is something daughters then carry into womanhood. We use celebrity “news” to perpetuate this dehumanizing position of females, focused solely on one’s physical appearance, which tabloids be transformed into a sporting event of supposition. Is she pregnant? Is she feeing too much? Has she let herself go? Is her wedding on the rocks because the camera sees some physical “imperfection”?

The objectification and scrutiny we put females through is absurd and disturbing.

I used to tell myself that tabloids were like comic books , not to be taken seriously, just a soap opera for people to follow when they need a distraction. But I truly can’t tell myself that anymore because the reality is the stalking and objectification I’ve experienced first-hand, going on decades now, reflects the warped style we calculatea woman’s worth.

This past month in particular has illuminated for me how much we define a woman’s value based on her marital and maternal status. The sheer sum of resources being spent right now by press trying to simply uncover whether or not I am pregnant( for the bajillionth period … but who’s counting) points to the perpetuation of this notion that females are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful, or unhappy if they’re not married with children. In this last boring news cycle about my personal life there have been mass shootings, wildfires, major decisions by the Supreme court, an upcoming election, and any number of more newsworthy issues that “journalists” could dedicate their resources towards.

Here’s where I come out on this topic: we are complete with or without a mate, with or without small children. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it is necessary to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s construct that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. Let’s build that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own “happily ever after” for ourselves.

We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it is necessary to our bodies.

I have grown tired of being part of this narrative. Yes, I may become a mother some day, and since I’m laying it all out there, if I ever do, I will be the first to let you know. But I’m not in pursuit of motherhood because I feel incomplete in some manner, as our celebrity news culture would lead us all to believe. I resent being made to feel “less than” because my body is changing and/ or I had a burger for lunch and was photographed from a weird angle and therefore deemed one of two things: “pregnant” or “fat.” Not to mention the painful awkwardness that comes with being congratulated by friends, coworkers and strangers alike on one’s fictional pregnancy( often a dozen periods in a single day ).

From years of experience, I’ve learned tabloid practises, however dangerous, will not change, at the least not any time soon. What can change is our awareness and reaction to the toxic messages buried within these seemingly harmless tales served up as truth and shaping our ideas of who we are. We get to decide how much we buy into what’s being served up, and maybe some day the tabloids will be forced to see the world through a different, more humanized lens because consumers have just stopped buying the bullshit.

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