20 Females On What It’s Like When You Eventually Find The Real Deal( Not ‘Puppy Love’)

1. Puppy love is youre cute, Im cute, let’s mess around and have some fun. Lets just take paintings to show people how cute we are. In real love theres no need to show off your love because you know how good it is, and how sad it is that not everyone has what you have.


2. Real love is when you break down each other’s walls and truly, deeply understand that person as much as you do yourself. You talking here everything and there is no judgement. Puppy love you love spend time with the person or persons and they construct you laugh and happy but you can’t genuinely love them because you only know them on the surface.


3. The difference is maturitynot only of the individuals, but the relationship itself. If the relationship is grown up, then thats real love.


4. I think puppy love has more to do with what people watch on the outside: our seems, our personality, whether or not we are athletic, etc. It means being in love with each other’s attributes, whereas real love operates much deeper. Real love is knowing everything about a person and still feeling that same love you had when it was just puppy love. Loving person at their worst and their best moments.


5. The difference is acceptance based off of beautiful’ imperfection .’ In puppy love we are searching for the ideas of perfection fed to us through the world “were living in”. At some phase, we realize that nobody will live up to these perfect ideals and we also realize that we, too, are imperfect and unable to meet such ridiculous standards. Once we are adopting our own flaws as beautiful gifts, then we can find real love through our ability to accept others and find the beauty in their uniqueness. There is nothing better than the laughter between two people who live for and love each other’s imperfections.


6. Puppy love is this constant need for validation and communication that the other person is into you. With real love you can sit in the same room together for HOURS and not say a word to one another and you know that everything is alright.


7. Real love is wanting to be together after the honeymoon stage is over and newness and excitement has worn off. Its never giving up on each other during hard times.


8. Puppy love is infatuation. Real love is taking care of your boyfriend where reference is breaks both of his legs and hosing him off in the backyard because his wheelchair can’t fit in the shower.


9. To me, puppy love is solely a impression. It’s when you are so’ head over heels’ for that person who seems to have everything you’ve always been looking for in a partner. It’s when you are trying to be your best for them and they can do no wrong. But this type of love will always fade. You both start showing the sides of yourself and the flaws that you’ve been trying to hide. And this is where many people either find that their relationship fails, or they find out what true love is.

To me, true love is not just a feeling, it also has to be an action. It’s realizing that your partner has flaws and will fail, but daily choosing to give them grace and appreciation because God knows that you need the same thing. It’s choosing to show them love, even when you feel that they don’t deserve it. It’s knowing that you may not always FEEL the “puppy love” for the other person, but that you can always CHOOSE to show them love anyways. True love is one of the most challenging experiences anyone can go through, but I also believe it to be one of the most gratify and rewarding experiences one can have in life!


10. There is a great difference. There is the I think youre adorable and you build me smile type of love that you can have with anyone if you allow yourself to. And there is real love that that runs so deep inside you that it hurts to think about that person not by your side.


11. Puppy love is all about feelingsthe pull and passion that is so fun. Real love recognizes that impressions are important, but can sometimes be born of the moment. Impressions/ feelings can be fun and playful, painful, sensual, or so many other things, but they are only a small piece of real love. Real love is a decision to remain and support one another. To know when tell the brutal truth with compassion. It is also the wisdom to keep your damn mouth shut when youre facing everyday annoyances. It is recollecting to always say’ thank you’ and’ I love you .’ Real love is( almost) always putting the other person first and knowing they will do the same for you. Real love is choice.


12. Im in puppy love instantaneously with pretty much anyone I like. Love is fun, and for me, puppy love has always amounted to being totally infatuated with someone and romanticizing everything they do. Im in real love now, for the first time, and its style more guttural or something. Its in your bones. I think you know youre in real love when you feel that overwhelming exhort to tell the person youre with that you love them.


13. When youre in puppy love everything your crush does and says builds you sigh like a lovesick schoolgirl. Anything negative is quickly acknowledged, yet ultimately dismissed. Your actions and believes seem to be absolutely blinded by this individual and a large chunk of what you do revolves around their personality. With real love, that cutesy stuff tends to meet its match. In real love, you want to do things , not just out of adoration for your significant other/ crush, but for their well-being. You realize that the word love has a much deeper and more solid meaning. You become one anothers security, foundation, and trust. A part of yourself lives within your partner and vice versatwo halves making a whole, so to speak. You still may want to do fun things with your significant other, fun and cute things, but the meaning has to be strongly mutual to better both yourselves and your relationship


14. Puppy love is butterflies, intense, short-lived. Love is calmness, physical and emotional attraction and the ability to withstand change and diversity.


15. Puppy love can be sweet and innocent and pure and a sure delight, but it seems to me it’s often based upon ideals of what a girl might imagine about a son. She projects onto him what she wants to see, or she only focuses on one attribute( his gorgeous looks, his smart answers, his humor) rather than the whole person. I’d say that the real deal becomes apparent when someone can draw back, get away from the physical attraction, and realize that this is the person she wants to wake up next to for the rest of her life. In the’ real bargain ,’ each person forgets what the other looks like because they are so used to seeing inside of each other that they don’t even notice the outer appearance any more. They feel respected, loved, and honored by the other, and they continue to have that feeling of glee just knowing the other is coming into the room.


16. Real love is about work for the planet. I believe you find your soulmate in this lifetime because you two are here to do selfless work for others.


17. Puppy love is the beginning phase in every relationship. As the relationship develops, the puppy love cloud disappears. Love is watching and accepting the whole packagethe good, the bad, the ugly, the embarrassing drunk moments, the raw ache and heartache that life bringsand loving that person still.


18. Love is facing your demons and confronting your anxieties. When you love person, that shell you’ve instinctively built around yourself starts to fissure. You are beautiful and you are raw. It’s pretty scary to be vulnerable but love calls us into vulnerability because through vulnerability comes true intimacy.


19. Puppy love is kiss and chuckles. Its easy. I dont think you know real love until you are faced with a key challenge. Then you see that love is hard. Actually hard. But you fight for it and for the other person because you know its worth it.


20. When asked why they love person, I often hear females respond with’ I love him because …’ They say things like,’ hes so nice to me’ or’ he has a good heart’ or’ he makes me feel special .’ In my opinion, these phrases define puppy love. The fact is, there are millions of men out there who would be good to you, who have a good heart, and who would go out of their route to construct “youre feeling” special. But you dont love them. If your love is real love, then the answer to the question would be I love him because I do. Real love cannot be defined; it simply is.

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