11 Women Share How They Prepared For Their First Solo Trip

Have you always wanted to take a solo trip-up but cant seem to find the guts? It can be nerve-wracking, for sure, to do it alone. But its doable and you dont have to be a helpless damsel out there. Here is how 11 women prepared for their first solo foray.

Dinner+ Movie

” I was really nervous about being alone, yet my whole life Id wanted to try a solo journey. So I started small, taking myself out to my favorite local eatery and then a movie. At first, I was sure everyone was staring at me, wondering if I was lonely or stood up by my date. I half-hid behind my menu. But then I realise the people around me were immersed in their own tale. Slowly, I emerged into my experience. It was an amazing impression, actually .” Meredith

Car Mechanics 101

” I had a weekend road trip-up schemed, just me and my SUV. But aside from infrequently checking my oil, I genuinely knew nothing about my car. I did an online search and found that a local automobile shop offers classes tailored for women. The only thing I can say is that I wish Id said and done class years ago. Im still no master mechanic, but at the least now I know how to change a flat !” Shannon

Finding That Sweet Spot

” For my first solo trip, I wanted to go somewhere where I was alone, but not remote, you know what I entail? So I searched online for retreat centers that specifically offer self-directed experiences. There are actually a lot of these around the country. I picked one that induced “i m feeling” calm i look at the website, and when I got there, it felt great to have conveniences , like a cozy room and healthy food. This allowed me to focus on what I wanted to get out of my time awayrejuvenation .” Maya

A Talk With My Partner

” My boyfriend is the type who likes to spend every free moment with me, which is awesome, but it also stimulates me feel guilty, and maybe even misconstrue, about wanting to do stuff alone. Id been needing to finish some poems and required space to do that, so I discovered a cabin I could go to alone for a week. At first when I told him about my schemes, his face dropped, but then I was just really honest, telling him that this is an important part of who I am. Because its not who he is, he didnt get onto completely. But he did say hed supporting me. That was various kinds of a big deal for not only my trip, but our relations .” Natasha

Straight Up, Self Defense

” Its hard to ignore the media with their narratives of women being kidnapped and hurt when traveling solo. It actually entirely freaks me out. The thing that made “i m feeling” more confident was taking a Krav Maga class, although Im sure any ego defense class would be useful. It was helpful in ways I didnt even expect, like teaching me to be aware of my surroundings and stimulating me practise techniques so many times that I began to believe Id be able to react in a tough situation. I also got physically stronger. I took this trust with me on my first solo trip to Europe, and it was invaluable .” Sarah

Entering The Right Head Space

” Im a mom of two little kids, and leaving was really hard for me, even though I knew my children would be completely fine at home with my partner. But man, the remorse! Before I even left( and it was only for two nights ), I recognise the tidal wave of emotions that was sitting at the surface area of my mind. And I committed to not letting this get in the way of my experience. I decided that if I felt lonely, fine, Id accept that and let it pass. Same thing with sadness, remorse, fear. It genuinely helped me get focused, so that I could attain the most of my rare day away .” Beth

Planning Versus Spontaneity

” Im a last- minute type, so when I travel with my friends, we usually dont have an agenda. But solo, I felt like I required a plan. I usually wouldnt carefully volume my lodging and transportation well in advance, but when I went to Antigua, Guatemala, I did. And honestly, it was so liberate, to arrive at the airport in Guatemala City and know that I didnt have to hassle with shuttles and hotels, all in my limited Spanish. There was already enough to think about, and having the basics covered was a great impression. It was definitely the smart thing to do .” Devi

Hallo, Hola, Ciao

” I decided on Germany for my first solo trip, but I didnt speak any German, so I decided to take a language class. My trip was schemed five months in advance, and Im glad about that, because this allowed me to take both an in-person class, and then continue learning online. I use Rosetta Stone, but Ive also heard good things about Duolingo. When finally I got to Germany, I felt a lot more confident traveling alone because I could communicate my basic needs, and I guess locals also appreciated that I at least tried to speak their language .” Kat

A Safety Tool Belt

” My biggest fear, frankly, about traveling alone, was security. So I bought some things that boosted my confidence. Like a money belt and a cross-body purse. Since I was heading out of the country, I also put my phone on an international plan, and I bought traveling insurance, which was so inexpensive, considering the coverage .” Christy

Simple Things, Like Sleep

” Ive now done more than 10 solo journeys, but I still remember that first one so clearly. I was going to NYC( from my small town in the Midwest) for the weekend to visit some art museums. I was so excited, because I wouldnt be obligated to anyone elses agenda. But deep down, I knew I needed to bringing my -Agame. I induced plenty of preparations, but frankly, some of the simple things, like getting good sleep in advance so that Id be alert, and making sure my mommy knew where Id be at all hours, and getting to know the neighborhood where Id be staying by looking at a map, were some of the best ways to prep .” Lisa

Explaining To My Children

” Im not the different types who wanted to backpack alone across Southeast Asia when I was 22, and Id never guessed much about traveling solo, but then, at the age of 33 with two children( ages 4 and 2 ), I watched an ad for a retreat center in Mexico, and I genuinely wanted to go. The hardest thing about leaving was hearing my children ask, over and over, Mommy why do you have to go? It broke my heart open every time. And then finally, I decided to be totally honest with them and tell them that I required a breaking, and that this would be good for all of us, because Id come back full of energy. I used some examples that induced sense to them. On a little-kid-level, I think they got it. It was like their first lesson in ego care .” Bridget

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